Remember when your health visitor came at the 2 and 6 week checks and said "are you establishing a routine now?" and you replied "Yes, oh yes definitely the baby is really slotting into our routine so well it feels like they have been here forever"
Yet really your screaming silently "ROUTINE ARE YOU HAVING A LAUGH, THIS CHILD FEEDS 24/7, I CANT REMEMBER WHAT BEDTIME EVEN IS, AND I'M UNSURE IF I HAVE SHOWERED SINCE THEY'VE BEEN BORN"
Why are we so set on routines? Why at baby groups are we talking to other Mums about how excellent or how poor our babies are sleeping through the night? Or how you struggle to do the housework before guests come over? Or discussing how your baby isn't feeding at the same times that other Mums babies are. Why am I typing into Google "How to get into a routine with a 6 week old baby"
Sod the flipping routine. I've tried it. Hard. I've tried doing the housework and getting both kids and myself dressed by 9am, guess how that went? It went hideous, I thought we were doing well, but then 8.30am come, and BANG the baby needed feeding and the 3 year old needed a poo, and that was the end of that. My daughter sat in her pretty blouse and her pyjama trousers for the rest of the day and as for me, I just looked like I had been out all night and just rolled in. As for the baby, He was the only one that was dressed, due to shitting all up his back. Come 11am though, as I sat and ate a whole bar of chocolate as a mid morning snack. It got me thinking, I was not going anywhere that day, I had no baby groups to go to, no shopping to do, nobody too see. So why the eff was I running around like a blue ass fly trying so hard?
Unless I need my routine, unless I've got to be somewhere, or the queen is nipping over for tea and toast, I am putting my fingers up to the R word. Days with my babies are so important, way more important than worrying about what Google says, time is going too fast as it is, its time to make sure that the time that I do have, where I'm not being shat on, sick on, or screeched at, is spent exactly how it should be, not trying to be a superhero; just being me, a Mum to my two children
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